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Pain to Purpose

StoryOctober 30, 20220Likes 0Comments

He was perfect! He loved everything that I loved and would often finish my sentences. For 6 months, he would drive down an hour each way to visit me in college. We would watch all my favorite movies, he would cry with me, and we would joke around like soulmates. I really thought he was…

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To Hell and Back

StoryDecember 28, 20210Likes 0Comments

I have been where you are and felt like you have and/or are currently feeling; abandoned, betrayed, confused, and broken, worthless, and not worthy of an amazing relationship. I have always been a strong, secure woman that did not take any crap from anyone and if I did not like the actions or the energy…

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You Have to Get Out of This

StoryApril 27, 20210Likes 0Comments

I repeated the words over and over in my head, hundreds of times. While I was lying in bed, unable to sleep, oftentimes with my abuser lying next to me, his arms wrapped around my body so tightly I could barely move. You have to get out of this. To an outsider, it would have looked…

As within, so without

StoryMay 21, 20200Likes 0Comments

I can almost laugh about it now, but it certainly wasn’t funny at the time. I had no idea there was even such a thing as emotional abuse or codependence until my marriage of almost 29 years slowly deteriorated and ultimately collapsed. In hindsight, that tower moment was absolutely necessary. The relationship was unhealthy and…

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Crazy Love

StoryApril 21, 20200Likes 0Comments

We all look for a perfect mate, maybe not perfect but compatible at least. I met mine at work, he was my manager and we both worked very hard for the same things in life. Time went on and we developed a relationship that went very well in all aspects until the day we moved…

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God Gives Us Obstacles

StoryApril 20, 20200Likes 0Comments

At age 13, my mother and stepfather got very involved in ultra conservative politics and the anti abortion movement. They preached that the government was bad and controlling and hated God. I was taught that women were created to serve their husbands and have children. It was pounded into me that women are fragile creatures…